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I'm the one with That Kid

So today I confirmed what I'd been suspecting since Moira started this round of soccer lessons back in March. I have the Bad Kid. At first I told myself each time that it was an isolated thing, that she'd be better the next week, that it was actually kind of cute. Well, the cute has worn off. It started innocently enough - she was excited and needed some extra prompting (by both the coach and me) to get her to listen and follow directions. She would talk or sing or roll around on the turf while Coach Chris was explaining a game. She would freak out if she didn't get *exactly* the ball she wanted to play with. She would yell "Mommy, look!" as she disregarded the rules of the games to build towers of cones or to throw the ball over the half-walls surrounding the pitch. Each time, I admonished her to listen to the coach, to behave, to follow directions. And usually she did.

And then the other kids started following her lead. :facepalm: Now she has a gaggle of peons - particularly a little girl, L., who adores her and is always seeking her approval; and a little boy, E., who holds her hand and flips her ponytails around. The others are less consistently loyal, but there are always one or two more who are eager to do whatever it is Moira is doing. I can see the coach's patience wearing thin and I'm too afraid to evaluate the expressions of the other parents. >_>

On the one hand, she's the polar opposite of meek little me at that age, and a part of me is proud of her for being so charismatic and bold. But the rest of me really wants a good kid who behaves and actually learns the lessons we paid (kind of a lot of) money for. Every week she promises that she'll listen to the coach and do what he says, and each week, the first thing she admits as we walk to the car is "I didn't listen to Coach Chris today." She says she understands that this is bad, but then she's so pleased with herself at the same time.

Lisa suggested that maybe I should pull her out early next week if she's being awful. Tom says that, at the very least, I should refuse to let her receive the end-of-lesson sticker that Coach gives everyone. Both are right, I'm sure. But then there's the hard part - wondering if I'm being too harsh a mother, knowing that she's only three and maybe I should let her be a toddler. But I can't stand the idea of her continuing with being disruptive. Argh!

Well, I guess I have a week to think on it.
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Bad kid? No. Toddler, yes. That age is hard, as I am sure you are well aware of. I wouldn't put her in the bad category though, she isn't hurting someone physically or emotionally, but is merely trying the patience of a coach that is already working with children whose attention span runs so far. I give the kidlet credit for at least recognizing that she didn't listen, and is honest about it. As she ages she will become better at following directions/rules. I say by the time fall hits she will be reaching that level of understanding. But Lisa and Tom are right, and your mommy-sense is right too. She does need to see that if she isn't going to listen, or ignore the rules and do as she pleases that something will happen. Sometimes a small repercussion is necessary. Its a good reminder that she cannot have things go her way all the time, and that she does need to listen to her coach. ^_^ But you don't need me saying this. I have been missing you something fierce lately, and I hope you are doing well sweety
You're right, of course. I don't think my Mouse is a bad kid at all, but I am nervous/frustrated that she's starting to head down such a disrespectful path. She's always been difficult to correct - she seems to find our attempts to redirect her to be either hilarious or unforgivably cruel. It's not that she doesn't know that her behavior isn't quite what we want from her, it's more like she doesn't care/understand why we want her to behave that way in the first place. She's very good at parroting back my reasons, but I'm not confident that she gets it.